MicroBlog Monday: Sick Kid

Wallace is sick with a sore throat, cough, fever, and headache. It is no fun and I don’t like having to give him ibuprofin as I believe it can cause long term problems like leaky gut, which I have. Anyway, I didn’t have any homeopathy for fevers so I broke out the ibuprofin to keep his fever below 103.5 (and he was miserable).

I had to run to the grocery store yesterday to get him some food he’d eat and thankfully could leave him at home with my mom. I’ve never had that luxury aa a single mom (and common courtesy to those at the store) before. He seems to be feeling a little better today but I predict this could take a while.

I wanted to get outside for a bike ride and to get Wallace some fresh air without wearing him out or exposing him to other people. We ended up crossing the big road by our apartment and taking a long winding bike path that goes into town and all the way to a playground. Thankfully, we found a small old play ground that no one was at. We bounced on the teeter totter, he went down a really tall slide, we pretended old stumps were bad guys and beat them with sticks while yelling “nee,” and then did some swings.

The smallest stump, which Wallace said was another kid helping us fight the bad guys.

The kind of slide I loved as a kid but terrify me as a parent.

The ride home had some wind against us and a little bit of uphill. It was the longest ride I’ve done in a year as I just got my bike out of storage. My legs and butt are going to be mad tomorrow!

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Where are all my mom bloggers at? I used to have a really active feed and got to read lots of posts, but it seems many have stopped or turned infrequent. Well, I want you to know that I like reading your blogs and I miss you. Please write some more and share your lives with the Internet.

Also, if you follow me and don’t think I’ve checked out your blog, comment and I will. I tend to mostly follow parenting and rv related things but maybe I need to branch out. No one has to match all of my qualifiers for me to be intrigued by your life.

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MicroBlog Monday: Walk the Walk

One of the things I keyed into on Puttylike is that if you want a job doing something then start doing that thing and eventually you will get paid to do it. This works especially if you don’t already have experience or a degree in that field to show a prospective employer. I really want to work with breastfeeding dyads, but I am not yet an IBCLC. I really want to be immersed in the birth community, but I do not yet have the experience to be a doula or other assets.

I have been searching for WIC peer counselor jobs for about three years and since I have not been able to find one where I am when I am there (I actually found an opening for one in the same building Wallace’s pediatrician was in in Chicago the week after we moved back to Michigan…), I decided to start pursuing the Breastfeeding USA volunteer work. Then, at 4am when I was up with a stomach ache and a busy mind, I found a listing for a local WIC peer counselor job. I am uncertain if I qualify because it says you must have two years experience with WIC already, which I have never seen on any job in any state over these past three years. Either way, I am going to call WIC and ask what’s going on and apply.

The reason I was looking up WIC at 4am, is that I wanted to find the information for their support group to add to the community resource website I just started last night. I will have to call as it is no longer listed on their site and the facebook pages seem inactive. Anyway, the website I am creating is for local families to have all things birth, breastfeeding, and parenting in one spot. When I moved here pregnant, I had no idea there was such a wealth of information and support because it was not organized in any way. Birth professionals will pay to have their bio and ad up for a year and free community groups and events will be listed for free. The fees will make it so that I can afford to put time into running it, pay for the site to be able to drop the .wordpress part, and pay for search engine optimization. I decided to call it Birth, Babies, and Breastfeeding of Genesee County. This is how I will be immersed in the birth community.

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I started writing a post a few days ago and when I finished it today and hit publish, it went in the order it would have been if I’d published when I first started it. I have no idea what happened there. Here’s a link to the post.

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Finest Moment

I am bone tired. I did so much the last two days. I’ve been pulled in a dozen directions and do not know how to say no or slow down. I made it through the week somehow, and in all the things I did, my finest moment as a parent was singing, no, belting out, John Jacob Jingleheimer Schmitt in the car to keep Wallace awake on the way home at 7:10pm.

In other news:

  • There are birds in the ceiling, one of which I got out because it was stuck

  • I went through 300 cases of cat food to find the 6 of the one Nina can eat
  • I got my bike and trailer
  • Wallace has two friends who won’t leave his side at nature class

  • I want to do the Breastfeeding USA counselor training, finally
  • Wallace had his first dental cleaning

  • Wallace is the proud owner of a 12in bike with pedals

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Veritable Octopus

Here’s how my brain works:

Blog post about interest span > what was that TED talk about people with lots of interests and why didn’t I delve into it then? > googled and found it > how to multipotentialite > found puttylike, the site by the TED speaker > now how can I make my life how I want?

The books I’m currently reading show a good cross section of my current interests:

  1. Audre Lorde collection
  2. Workout book
  3. Book about various healing systems
  4. Tibetan parenting anthropological book
  5. Amy Tan novel
  6. RV book
  7. Book on puppets and child play
  8. 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea

Add in my browser tabs and you’ve got parenting, recipes, Breastfeeding USA volunteer info, Amazon FBA and affiliate pages, homeopathy, and now Puttylike. I am constantly researching new things and am a sponge for knowledge. I like having multiple projects or areas of study going at once and got thoroughly bored in school, especially my first attempts at college. (Some of my college fails were caused by money issues or serious injuries and though I have been taking classes and have a possible career goal, I’m not putting pressure on myself to keep going.) But at the same time, I have a hard time juggling everything and can become easily overwhelmed or forget about things.


I started this a few days ago and have been trying to work out what I want and need to be doing. I have strong interests in working with people, pregnancy and birth, breastfeeding, holistic nutrition and medicine, yoga, and parenting. I don’t have to feel like each of these, and my other, interests are pulling me in separate directions. I can explore them simultaneously or one leading to another.

The goal of being an IBCLC has not gone away but my view of it as the end goal has changed. I want to start by becoming a Breastfeeding USA counselor, which I had explored before. It costs $25 to be a member and $50 for the training. That would put me in the position to work with breastfeeding parents and to further my knowledge. It could also count as contact hours for eventually becoming an IBCLC.

While at the playground two days ago, I started chatting with a mom who was wearing her baby in a carrier I wasn’t familiar with. Mostly, I just like talking to people and finding common ground. She was there with her cousin and we all started talking. She told me she’s taking an online doula training course and how much she loves it. I immediately looked it up and later sent an email. They have scholarships available and it looks like a great course and easy to stay certified in.

I would love to be able to work within the birth and breastfeeding fields and there is a lot of potential in these areas. I would constantly be stimulated by new people and experiences, causing me to learn and feel fulfilled. I have been feeling very frustrated and stuck but this last week has shown me how I can make this work. It is possible for me to follow my interests and I don’t have to be constantly stressed.

Help me remember that frustration and confusion usually precede growth. If my situation is challenging me, it is because I’m learning something new, rising to a higher level of understanfing. Help me be grateful, even in my frustration, that life is an exciting progression of lessons.

– The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie

This was part of my reading this morning and it struck me as truth. Maybe I am just hitting a growth spurt and I need to relax and cultivate my Self. More on that in another post.

Meanwhile, I have started a birth and breastfeeding Good Reads shelf to collect titles I might want to read. I have been listening to the Birth Hour podcast a few times a week, which Wallace really likes too. I have a lifetime to learn and grow and don’t have to feel rushed or stressed to dive into something. I don’t have to stick with one choice, but changing my mind and following my interests is okay.

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76 – Circumcision

* I noticed there are 10 unpublished drafts on my blog. I decided to go through them and see what is publishable. This was from the series of near-daily blogs I wrote to Wallace during the 100+ days before he was born.*


Dear Readers,

Circumcision is something that I have a very strong opinion on. I am very anti circumcision and I feel that I can openly express my views here. I have friends who have circumcised their children and do not belittle or demean them, but acknowledge that they made the decision they feel is best for their child. I also have friends who have regret over circumcision and support them as they go through this process. It is one of those things that I can calmly agree to disagree with people on despite my very strong inclination that it is neither necessary nor beneficial.  I urge anyone who is about to be the parent of a son to research circumcision so they can make an informed decision of their own.



Dear Wallace,

I have decided to not have you circumcised at birth.  Beyond a mother’s instinct and a desire to not put you through unnecessary pain, here are my reasons:

1)  It is an optional medical procedure that has health risks and no proven medical benefits.  Those who have touted medical benefits over the years had their own agenda and a lack of scientific evidence to back them up.

2)  It is genital mutilation.  Plain and simple.  I would not do a similar procedure on a girl baby or a baby with ambiguous genitalia so I would not have this procedure done to you.  We, as a Western culture, fight genital mutilation of women and girls in and from African countries.  The promotion of genital mutilation in the US is a hypocritical double standard and needs to stop.

3)  It takes away a part of your body you were born with that has a purpose and generally functions without issue when left alone.  It also removes nerve endings from the most sensitive area of a man’s body.

Love Always,


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