It is so easy as parents to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up. We have images in our heads of what parenting will look like and what we want to do and not do. These standards are impossible to fully live up to.
We often lose focus on the substance of life because we are rushing around, dealing with the day-to-day minutiae of raising kids and maintaining households and working jobs. It can get so hectic that we forget to enjoy the little moments and remember why we are doing this in the first place.
In light of that, I want to invite you to share something that you want to share with, teach, or instill in your child. These things can make you grin when you think of them, make you remember distinct memories, or make you feel the wonder that is the world. Here’s a few of mine:
• I want Wallace to be able to look up at the night sky and see the pictures in the stars. I want him to know of the stories and histories that make them special as well as feel the vastness of the universe.
• I want Wallace to love books. I want him to love the feel and smell and of course the words. I want him to know that books are friends and teachers and the delving into one can change your life.
• I want Wallace to know the importance of listening, of empathy, and of learning the stories of others. There is so much to learn from a conversation with a stranger at a bus stop or a close friend.
I revel in these things and hope to teach Wallace to appreciate them too. Tell me what you want to impart on your child.