
Wallace and Jenn, aka Momma, July 2021 eating popsicles on the back step.
My name is Jenn, but I’m most often called Momma, or Wallace’s Mom. I’m 36 and I’m a single mom by choice. When I grew up I wanted to be an archeologist, an author, an illustrator, a teacher, a chef, and a mom. As an adult, I’ve been a short order cook, a cashier, a bookseller, a student, a pizza maker, a nanny, a performance poet, a smut peddler, worked on a dude ranch, a bear maker, a tea seller, a breastfeeding peer counselor, a doula, a yoga teacher, a grocery order shopper, and I had a used book business. I currently am applying for disability due to multiple chronic illnesses greatly impacting my ability to function. I grew up in Michigan, called Chicago home for 6 years, spent a year and a half in Denver, back to Michigan for a spell, 9 months in Chicago, and the last 6 years have been back in Michigan.
My child, Wallace, was conceived via DIY alternative insemination with the help of a known donor. They was born March of 2013. I would very much like to have another child, but since going through pregnancy and birth my illnesses have compounded and I’ve spent the last 8 years treading water and trying to get doctors to believe me.
I started this blog as a safe place for me to talk about my feelings, plans, and experiences. I also wanted to be able to share with others who might be interested in starting a family on their own. I found much comfort and validation in reading the blogs of other families and found a sense of community through writing my own. Due to some privacy issues, many of my posts are password protected, so please email me if you are a friend or genuine follower. My email is goodfamiliesdo at gmail dot com. Oh, and the title is a reference to a children’s picture book… 50 points for anyone who gets it!
Well hello there! I wondered where you disappeared to! Sorry to hear about the bfn 😦
Hope the move went well and you’re settling in nicely. Chicago says hi!
Hi! Yeh the crazy move and the two week wait put me in hiding. I threw my whole routine out of whack and was hardly online for a few weeks. I obviously haven’t written about the results of my attempt yet! I don’t know what to write and I’m still grappling with the emotional aspects of it as well as the new twists my life has taken. I’m sure there will be a 2am in my near future that I put to good use and just hash it all out. Or maybe 8’ll start with something light and write about my new house! Tell Chicago I miss it dearly.
Hi Jenn,
I just found your blog via CrazyLesbianMom. I am also a pregnancy Single Mom by Choice -32 years old and I am expecting a baby girl in early February! So glad I found another SMC’s blog. I will follow you!
Hello, Lindsay! That’s great you found my blog and are also a SMC!!! If you look in my tags or categories, you should find a post that I wrote with a few more links. If you come across anymore SMC blogs, share them with me please! I feel like I bridge the world of SMC and two mom families and don’t quite fit in either, but I make it work. Congratulations on your soon to be baby girl and I will be seeing if you have a blog as soon as I click post comment. Thanks for stopping by and feel free to comment anytime or make some idle chit-chat.
I found your blog googling posterior tongue ties. My daughter has a posterior TT and we just started the process of trying to find a practitioner to do a revision. Apparently Denver is a wasteland for class IV tie revisions. Anyway, I’m glad that your little guy is doing so great! I’m hoping we can find a practitioner to help my little girl!
Thank you for commenting! Are you in the Facebook tongue tie group? I can’t remember if there was a recommended practitioner for Denver. It took many tries to find someone here to help us. Also, if you are breastfeeding and your supply is being effected, there is a really supportive low supply group on Facebook. I wouldn’t have made it through without those two groups.
I really like your blog a lot! I’m nominating it for the Liebster Award! If you want to participate, just stop by my blog for the details. Keep blogging!
Is it that time of year again?!
Must be. 🙂
Just went and read your post. I will have to work on this from a computer. Thanks for the honor! I also want to check out your blog a bit.
I don’t understand this, Jenn. The simplicity of truth, realism, and love conquer all. We but live in a society that simply lies within a trap, and I believe you may, have fallen into it. Stop making excuses. Reach out to those you have lost. Grow. This is but once in a lifetime.
I don’t know what you are referring to.