*This was meant to post last night, but Wallace woke up right as I was grabbing links for it.*
As of last night, I’m single again. I couldn’t put enough of my energy and time into each thing in my life (Wallace, housework/life basics, work, school, L, me) and have any leftover for the next day. I have had no time or patience and at the end of the day, I just want to sleep. It wasn’t fair of me to continue trying to keep a relationship going and the distance didn’t help.
I realized I needed to tell DHS that I started school. I remembered being asked about it during the intake interview and finally remembered to call on Thursday. I was told that because I am in school (part time, online, all financial aid), I will no longer qualify for food stamps. He told me that a few years ago, a bunch of college students were caught selling their food stamp cards so they made new rules. I was distraught to the point of crying on the floor with my sweet son saying “No more cry, Momma. I wipe your tears.”
That just didn’t seem right or make sense. I have a kid and am trying to get an education so we won’t always be on assistance! I wanted to see if I could find a news story about the college students. I found this one from 2011 about the politics of it and the different governors involved. Nothing in there about college kids selling their cards. I also found this page. The first link under who is eligable is a pdf. It gives details on who can receive food assistance while attending college. According to that, I would qualify because I am a parent of a child under 6 and I provide at least half of his support and care. I also have a 20 hour a week job, though I quoted under minimum wage since I bring Wallace with me and it isn’t reported income. My friend has agreed to write a letter of employment if we need it.
I called on Friday and left a message explaining what I had found. I feel like he got me upset and scared when I should still be eligobale for food assistance. Mind you, I would love to not need it, have reported income, and not live with my dad anymore. But I can dream.
Wallace is in a phase of not eating much and combined with his behavior it is driving me crazy. For dinner tonight he had three bites of stir fry (only the rice and chicken though) and a handful of rice chex. He is refusing to eat any vegetables and most meals I prepare. He wants the same things all the time and is refusing to try new things. He either wants noodles and sauce or quesadillas for lunch and dinner.
Meanwhile, I have cut dairy, soy, corn, pork, and beef from my diet (and of course no gluten). I am trying to expand my repotoire of foods and find some new dishes to cook. Tonight I made Brussels sprout fried rice and also a batch of cauliflower tortillas to have with eggs and salsa.
I’ve gotta get this kid back to eating some vegetables again! Any and all suggestions welcome. Muffins with shredded carrot or zucchini are about it for him the last couple weeks.